ANGER: THE SITUATION I had a strong reaction of anger to an e-mail I received in which the sender said some things about me -which were true but I thought harsh– as I had intended a message I had written to be perceived differently than the way it was, which was taken literally versus as an ‘ideal’. However, I understand, how a communication-that I have written-is perceived is largely my responsibility , especially in the context of this particular one because I cannot assume (ass-u-me) that the reader will understand what I write as a ‘ideal’ or whatever–but that they will take what I write literally (in most cases-of course there are humorous writings) UNLESS I SPECIFY OTHERWISE. So this is common sense and my anger was a reaction to protect myself and mend my ego.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to become anger and blame and AS anger and blame think, ‘Who does he think he is, saying I am this and that? It’s not my fault if he exaggerates and doesn’t get what I was saying!’ In that, I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to be directed by fear and self-doubt that perhaps this person is right so then jump into deflecting this fear by using blame and focusing on the other and NOT facing myself.
When and as I see myself as desiring to blame another because for a moment it takes the emphasis off of me and my own process ,so within this I see/realise and understand that I am seeking to gain a sense of power/superiority from blaming another. I stop and I breathe and I slow myself down enough to walk my own process and stop attempting to blame others to make me feel better in that moment.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate/engage in backchat/inner conversation of a vicious and blaming nature so as to make myself feel better that I am right and do not have to change of some of the following : he thinks he’s so smart/superior/better than me, screw him/them, well I may as well give up/I try so hard-give so much and this is what I get in return, F it, obviously that is not what I meant, it was in general, what is he stupid?
When and as I see myself beginning to talk /gossip/complain about others inside my own head, I stop and I breathe and I slow myself down enough to walk my own process and stop attempting to blame others to make me feel better in that moment.as I now see/realize/understand I am actually manipulating myself because I am uncomfortable with the emotions I am experiencing and do not want to ‘sit’ with them/look at them, so I talk myself out of the uncomfortable position and into a new position of victor/superiority inside my own head- thereby getting the reward of the positive energy experience of winner/powerful victor. This is done in complete self-interest and does not resolve the issue of anger and blame but avoids it completely. And so I commit to slow myself down, look/examine what I am experience and walk my process.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to go into /indulge in first the negative energy reactions of emotions of : anger/blame/inferiority/fear/less than/not good enough/self-doubt, self-judgement/hate/resent and then polarize myself, head on into the positive energy experience using the following feelings: superiority through being right and also wisdom based on age/better than/powerful. I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to experience the physical consequences of muscle stiffness and ache in my neck and shoulders, tightness in my jaw which leads to a slight headache and anxiety and stress in my solar plexes. In that, knowing that these physical reactions are a result of the energy produced by participating in the emotions, which lead to the tearing /consuming of the muscle tissue, eating away of the flesh of the body.
I commit myself to assist and support myself through the process of stopping participation in these reactions of emotions and feelings toward anger as I cannot effectively direct myself here in physical equality and oneness Or in self-honesty when I am lost inside my own head and busy with aches and pains /anxiety which is a subsequent outflow of agreeing to engage in these emotions , just a distraction to take me away from dealing with the matter at hand.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to have to, once again re-live the consequences of my anger as: when I react to anger I am going inside my mind with all sorts of thoughts, memories coming up, feeding off the energy so bringing up other emotions and this energy all building–SO THEN I AM NOT PRESENT in that moment-in reality-to deal with what is happening in a CALM, LOGICAL WAY and I speak too fast/make decisions too quickly-from the past and emotions connected to the past and do the same old thing/timeloop myself by having to face the guilt/shame for reacting in haste, perhaps apologizing for my rash behavior/speech, possibly cut ties with people-being directed and controlled by fear-fear of rejection and fear of loss so leave them before they leave me and fear not being good enough so I give up or make rash decisions that I regret later.
Another consequence is existing in a illusionary bubble, polarizing my relationships, as me the weak one/victim and the other the strong one/bully, me the ‘right/good’ one, the other the ‘wrong/evil’ one. As I am one of MANY on this planet who react in/with anger, there are millions of us reacting with emotion which leads to further separation and possibly communication breakdown and conflict! In that, conflict can result because/as the emotion of anger unresolved tends to fester (memories can be exaggerated/changed to suit /feed one’s ego over time)and become resentment, hate and this can lead to conflict in the form or verbal exchange/arguement, gossip, physical violence, and even war.
And so, when and as I see myself falling into the trap of anger and blame I commit to THE PROCESS of stopping all such participation to end the cycle of reliving consequence, so go from consequence/outflow management to directive living in which I am aware/slow down/look-examine the situation/walk my process as in taking responsibility to change me/ and then in the future NOT participate in reactions but remain stable with breath –even as a thought/image come to mind to say ‘NO! no participating’ so as to stop timelooping into infinity with ANGER.
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