Here I share my ‘Desteni of Living’ – my commitment too apply the following principles and to stand as a living example to others. In coming blog posts and videos I will be walking each individual Principle and how I am already Living the Example of each Principle and/or How I Walk a Practical Process of Self-Correction and Responsibility to Become the Living Example of each Principle.

Principal #2. Living by the principle of What is Best for All – guiding me in Thought, Word and Deed to always in all ways direct problems to the best possible outcome for all.

I am becoming more aware of my words when I am speaking to others, as in considering them more and realizing what I say/the words I speak can have an effect on another and so it is my responsibility to slow down and consider them in each moment.

I am more aware of: ‘old tapes’ playing in my mind like thought patterns when they first come up, how I slip into imagination with memories and/or imagined play outs of a situation, how I see something in the physical and connect something from my past-a picture popping up in my mind and then going into thinking. Thus, I am now being more persistent/diligent (it is not easy) in stopping the engagement in my mind and instead asking myself, ‘how can i deal with this in the physical, considering all involved?’ For example, I used to go into judgements about my partner and my step-daughter about tidiness and cooking for them, today I stopped this and realized all I require to do is know what to cook and purchase it and prepare it and that is it, simple. I also remind myself that picking up a few things/putting things away for a few days while my step-daughter is here is not a burden but my privilege. There are simple solutions to make the little bit of extra ‘housework’ efficient, for example tomorrow night we will go out to a restaurant (I realize we are fortunate we can afford this), another evening I will cook a frozen pizza, so each night is not cooking a large meal with lots of clean up.

I am stopping my reactions, seeing them in real time more and more and not engaging. An example of this just occurred in a phone conversation with someone who I have had a history of reacting to quite a bit, there was a pattern that unfolded where she did not understand me and I would usually react in alot of energy of defensiveness, frustration, anger, impatience, self-doubt, and then (after I hung up the phone) blame, guilt, regret but I did not allow it to play out. As soon as I saw the point where we would start arguing and creating more misunderstandings I was able to top and breathe and remained silent/still for a moment and then very carefully spoke, and clarified the situation. At that moment, the built up tension dissipated and we could continue on with our conversation in a more relaxed and trusting way with each other.

I am noticing more and more how ‘needing to be liked’ has controlled/directed my thoughts/words and deeds throughout my life. The character within me is of ‘not good enough’ and inferior. Thus, I am seeing this come up now in awareness-sooner- and have started to ask myself ‘why do you need them to like you? what is the self-honest/best for all answer/comment/communication in this circumstance? do you really care if they like you? why are you afraid of making a mistake? what do you think this says about you-if you make a mistake? do you know how to slow down and respond calmly, if you do make a mistake? do you know how to support yourself when you feel threatened/attacked and simply communicate with another person?’ AND I answer myself/or introspect to determine the answers. Thus, I am able to start to let this go. I realize it is not about someone liking or not liking me and NO I actually do not ‘care’ or ‘not care’ it just is what it is, we are not going to be close to all people/feel comfortable with all people and that is ok/cool.

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Day 280: How I Live the Desteni Principles 1

June 6, 2014June 7, 2014 | sandymacjones

Please refer to: The Desteni of Living – My Declaration of Principle

I will write what I am aware of living now and re-visit this principle in future moments.

1. Realising and living my utmost potential

* My Behavior Toward/With Another: It is no longer acceptable to me to hang onto blame and judgement of myself and/or another. After an encounter/conversation with another (only seldom, at this point, am I able to change in the moment) I am able to see/realize/understand rather quickly my responsibility within it. It is much easier for me to be aware of- and then let go of- nasty backchat/judgements and instead go into wanting to understand another and/or a consideration of the other person, like ‘well, I really don’t know them or all they have experienced in their life so how can I judge?’, I can now quickly remind myself ‘they don’t know me so I should not take it personally’ and I am able to stabilize or if they do know me I don’t take it personally anyway because they are simply responding according to their own pre-programing/thinking patterns based on their past, just as I had done my whole life, so again, I have no right to judge/blame.

I can now step back and consider, ‘ok, if you feel guilty Sandy, what is going on within you?’ and I look at the situation – how it physically in reality occurred and I find often I have taken some short cut/broke a rule and set myself up to be a victim. I have looked at how I have done this throughout my life and I require to slow down, remind myself to breathe and practice patience and consideration of others. I am able to apply quick self-forgiveness for any nasty backchat/revenge fantasy (where I imagine/ re-play the scene in my mind, saying the ‘perfect’ thing back to spite them, especially if I think they ‘hurt my feelings’ lol) and instead ask myself ‘how could I have turned this around to assist and support that person?’ I am also able to quickly remind myself this is not who I want to be/allow myself to be anymore (reacting/gossiping/saying spiteful things in my own secret mind about another) and that it is my responsibility to speak up self-honestly in a moment and then support and assist another as equals, not see another as the enemy/bully and me the victim.

* Worrying About My Children: I have been able to let go of the incessant worrying about my children’s safety and health. Note: there is still some concern that comes up but it is more realistic and looking at situations then out of control worry. Also note, stopping the worrying does not mean that I love them/care about them any less! This not to perfection yet but I am able to stop when I see thoughts coming up and not go into a full blown mind possession about it. I remind myself to be patient (waiting for test result for my daughter) and that being stable is what will support my daughter and not weakened/confused/fearful because of participating in emotional energy reactions. When I see myself starting to think fearful thoughts about my son driving/coming home very late from work, I am now able to stop before it goes any further. I remind myself: how useless worry really is/it does not change anything/the facts of a situation, I am a physical being and to do the next physical thing before me, as in move/direct myself & I also remind myself I have ‘been there done that’ meaning I have lived in my own mind for 50 years now and I can see how /where it leads BUT I have not tried to live as a completely physical being (I do see how changing just a little has benefited within growing relationships, music, my health and more).

I was also very worried about my own health, test results around a certain issue and, when I went for a 6 month check yesterday, one of the areas of concern in my breast had completely disappeared! I had not allowed myself to indulge in imaginations/thoughts about it before hand/stopped them almost immediately when they came up, and this had the effect of me being more calm during the testing, not sure if that made a difference or not but it was much better for me as I did not get myself all upset before or during the appointment.

* Personal Health and Well Being: Firstly with regards to night sweats/hot flashes, it is no longer acceptable to me to live solely in reaction (something happens and then I react to it ) but rather as an active creator/an aware participant with and as life , who is self-responsible within directing their own mind in each moment. Having said that, I did transcend the sweating for awhile (about a week! it was very mild, easy to sleep!) but as I slowly let up and went more and more into my mind of reactions/energy, the sweats returned with a vengeance . So now I am in the process of using breath in awareness in each moment (again more and more) and I can see that they are becoming ‘lighter’/less severe, but not yet back to the point of being mild.

I am more aware of my reactions in the moment as they come up, reactions being: emotions (negative ie. anger/sadnesss) & feelings (positive ie. excitement/happiness). Thus, I am able stop participation in them more and more quickly. Often, when I feel any movement in my solar plexes, I say out loud or to myself ‘I am with you body’ and I take a deep breath in and slowly exhale, I remind myself where I am and what I am doing and to focus on physical reality. I find by not participating in these energies I have less anxiety/stomach problems and am not as tired throughout the day or evenings!

* Music: I am no longer allowing myself to be the ‘lesser version’ of me, anything less than free to express in the moment, who I am here as in who I can become boundlessly , no longer allowing myself to limit me within songwriting. How am I doing this?

I am writing melodies in the moment, in self-honesty, meaning not coming from the starting point of the past, with memories and thoughts. When I see myself going into the past I stop and do not continue until I am clear. I am not allowing myself to go into future moments (less and less) within excitement when I create a melody I enjoy, so stopping participation in fantasy/imagination of future projection of praise or ‘success’. When I see it happening I stop and breathe and make sure I am accessing what is real, which is simply me sitting at the piano. I am stopping comparisons and thus competition in my mind, more and more, where I make myself inferior to another artist. When I see myself going into these emotional energies, I immediately stop and get back to reality and the creation process. As well, I am not allowing myself to indulge in self-doubt nearly as much, by judging a song as ‘bad’, I less and less let a song possess me (going round and round in my head)/can just leave it OR if I find I want to re-work a melody, I don’t stress about it but do it in the moment and it is a joyful experience, I find it comes out simply, no struggle.

I am not using my tape recorder when I wake up to record a song idea of melody and lyrics, as I used to do often, which only confused me as I would start too many songs and not complete them. I am practicing playing the keyboard in self-honesty, meaning using my whole body physically and not having thoughts: self-judgements, criticisms, opinions running around in my mind and simply feeling the music/rhythm which is proving to be much more enjoyable and making me a more competent musician (still long way to go as a musician). I am singing in self-honesty, meaning-like with the keyboard-using my whole body and breath in awareness without thoughts running away in the background/lots of backchat going on in my mind. This is again more enjoyable and I find my voice softer and more clear and capable/seems ‘easier’ to sing!

Most importantly, I am able to realise and live my utmost potential by being aware of all of these points in my daily life and within each breath, in more and more consistency.

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Day 131: You’re So Negative! 3

April 19, 2013April 21, 2013 | sandymacjones

Please refer to the previous 2 posts, Day 129 and Day 130, for context to this blog.

PROBLEM: I Exist In Negativity

from the previous post: I jump to the positive to combat the negative, like I am at war with myself, to kind of cancel it out thus make myself feel better/ok. Although, this seems to work for the moment or few hours, I’m back to the negative thinking once again, mostly unaware so jumping to the positive is not an effective or lasting solution. It is simply an attempt to deal with the consequences of how shit I feel about my life and the world around me by cramming in a bunch of ‘light’ thoughts but what it does in fact is delay and build up more consequence from the within, by suppressing/denying the thoughts and subsequent emotions it actually causes harm to ones physical body and from the without, by turning a blind eye to the very real and vast array of problems the world is facing.

Thought: I’m so negative! Oh, I have it better than most, stop complaining and be grateful, carry on, you can’t change the world, think I’ll pick up a chocolate bar.

SOLUTION: To examine this thought, within it’s muti-dimensions, and reconstruct it applying commitment statements that I am able to live/walk as living words responsibly, which are best for all life.

Internal Conversation and Backchat Dimension

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to not realize when I am engaging in internal conversation/backchat within my own mind and then often replying to myself, lol, like: I’m doing it again, I’ll never get this, it’s impossible to change, nothing is working, I can’t break this habit, no one watches my vlogs anyway, the world is a mess, no one hears the message of equality, human beings won’t change, it’s too big of a goal, no one ‘gets’ equal money. In that, I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to not realize when I then switch to the positive polarity looking for a ‘treat’ of something to eat or a cigarette as reward/diversion or when I think something I believe will make me feel better for a positive energy experience to distract myself and motivate to ‘keep moving’ within my day.

I commit myself, to assist and support myself, whenever I find I am talking inside my own head in a negative way, by using breath awareness to bring myself back to reality, to the physical as I now see/realize/understand I do not require the energies of positive or negative thinking to motivate myself here as life, I know my responsibilities within my day and I move myself/direct myself to stand and contribute, I also realize negative thinking is not productive and keeps me stuck by leading to fear/hopelessness and then becoming immobile, thus it serves no purpose but to control me into doing nothing.

Emotion and Feeling Dimension

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to not realize when I am reacting to negativity within the following emotions: guilt, hopelessness, helplessness, overwhelmingness, sadness, and FEAR, self-pity, blame, self-blame.

I commit myself, to assist and support myself, whenever I find I going into any of these emotions by using breath to stabilize myself, as I now see/realize/understand I am using these emotions as an excuse to stop/do nothing/make a mediocre effort and to not stand up as life for myself and all in existence. It is no longer acceptable to me to ‘let myself off the hook’ just because a task seems large. I realize change is possible -not inside the mind of energies going up and down-but through day by day/moment by moment physical participation, to grow/expand/change as an individual and as the world systems, into a being and species (humanity) that no longer exists within self-interest but within oneness and equality.

Physical Reactions and Behaviors

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to not realize when negativity within thinking has led to: lethargy, an overwhelming sense of being tired, headache at the base of my head and in forehead region, shallow breathing, stiffness of my jaw, tightening in my solar plexus, nausea in my stomach.

When and as I see myself going into physical body reactions from participating within negativity, I immediately stop myself and bring my awareness back here, to what is real before me in my reality and day. I remind myself how useless it is to engage in negative thinking-as it does not change anything- and is making me literally feel sick as my physical body reacts to the energies of the negative. I do not allow myself to go into the positive, instead I use breath to stabilize myself and focus on breath until I am clear and can move without energy and get on with the task at hand.

Consequence Dimension

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to not realize the consequences of living within negativity, some being: one tends to give up/go into ‘it’s useless to even try’ allowing the energy of the mind to possess one to the extent of becoming just a reactor/spectator of life instead of creating life and standing up to change whatever it is that is bothering you about yourself/your environment so as not not face oneself and do what needs to be done , one tends to jump into the positive to ‘feel better’ but then does not act/move to create change to better the situation/condition within yourself or your environment, one continues to live inside ones mind and does not ‘see’ reality of the suffering on our planet that is caused directly by the human being, one tends to exaggerate as the energies of the negative snowball /accumulate to become something that cannot be tackled instead of taking one point at a time so it is not overwhelming.

I commit myself to assist and support myself to the process of stopping the many consequences of negativity by bringing myself back to the physical with breath, as I now see/realize/understand I cannot effectively direct myself within my day if I am lost in my mind of energy, playing games with myself, back and forth from negative to positive and I do not accomplish my responsibilities but waste time as the energies suck me dry and I become tired. As well, I no longer want to wallow in self-pity, fear and blame and use them as an excuse to not be the best person I can be for myself and my world-I am responsible. Lastly I remind myself I do not want negative thoughts to get so exaggerated the task seems too large to even begin, as there is no point in this.

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Day 130: Stop Being So Negative! 2

April 18, 2013April 19, 2013 | sandymacjones

Please refer to the previous post for context to this blog.

PROBLEM: I Exist In Negativity

Thought: I’m so negative! Oh, I have it better than most, stop complaining and be grateful, carry on, you can’t change the world, think I’ll pick up a chocolate bar.

Thought Dimension: I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to not realize when I go into negative thinking/energy about my life and my world and then I go into the polarity of the positive thinking, ‘Oh, I have it better than most, stop complaining and be grateful, carry on, you can’t change the world, think I’ll pick up a chocolate bar’ thus stopping myself from moving here in the physical, as a responsible being, to take the steps to bring about change.

When and as I see myself participating in this thought/thought pattern of going form the negative to the positive-using energy-I stop myself and bring my awareness back to my breath and remind myself I am a physical being as I now see/realize/understand I am only suppressing and delaying consequence within the physical body and the world by distracting myself and not moving myself as the directive principal/force of life as is my responsibility to enact practical and lasting change and so it is quite useless and I will have to face myself again and again until I stop my participation and remain here, using neither positive nor negative energy but stability with breath.

Fear Dimension:

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to not realize that the energy of fear is what I am participating in, letting it direct and control me/my decision making/ movement within my day as the foundational reason for not facing head on this negativity, as if it is too big to handle/to take on and so I submit to the fear and REPLACE IT WITH HOPE/light and happy thoughts no matter how small they are-even a chocolate bar- to abdicate my responsibility to myself and all life forms.

When and as I see myself being directed by fear within negative thinking/thinking patterns and participating with/as this energy, I immediately stop myself and bring my awareness back to the physical body with breath as I now see/realize/understand existing as the energy of fear is useless and does not change reality but keeps me imprisoned in my mind with no change/growth/progress, I do not require energy, negative or jumping to the positive, to move/direct myself, if the energy of fear or of love and light as the positive WORKED-MOVED US TOWARD SOLUTIONS WITHIN THIS WORLD IT WOULD HAVE WORKED ALREADY but it has not as we see in the escalation of war and unimaginable suffering on earth, this is no longer acceptable to me to act insane-doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result-or to close my eyes to reality so I commit to exist within neither the positive or the negative but here alive with the physical.

In that, I realize that fear, in itself, has no power but is simply energy brought about from the programming I have created over my lifetime and I indeed have the power, as my directive principal in each moment, to change myself within and thus change the world without. Finally, no issue is too big, for example world hunger/housing, when taken point by point, there are 7 billion of us, it is only the mind of thoughts/consciousness that CONS us to beLIEving this is so. I have to change the world.

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Day 129: How Do You Stop Negativity From Running Your Life?

April 17, 2013April 17, 2013 | sandymacjones

PROBLEM: I Exist In Negativity

So How Do You Stop Negativity From Running Your Life?

I have been existing within and as negativity for most of my life. Jumping from the negative to the positive polarities within my mind and thoughts. I realize now I jump to the positive to combat the negative, like I am at war with myself, to kind of cancel it out thus make myself feel better/ok. Although, this seems to work for the moment or few hours, I’m back to the negative thinking once again, mostly unaware so jumping to the positive is not an effective or lasting solution. It is simply an attempt to deal with the consequences of how shit I feel about my life and the world around me by cramming in a bunch of ‘light’ thoughts but what it does in fact is delay and build up more consequence from the within, by suppressing/denying the thoughts and subsequent emotions it actually causes harm to ones physical body and from the without, by turning a blind eye to the very real and vast array of problems the world is facing.

As well, I have read several positivity books over the years and you would think this would sink in and become part of the fabric of my being so to speak by now, but it did not. I did not change from all the books, lectures, participation with/as the positive thinking, I did not gain more stability, compassion, nor peace/serenity. I felt quite helpless and often victimized by ‘happy thinking’ because when I looked at the state of my life and the world, there wasn’t much to be happy about really. So I would (thinking I was doing something wrong with my negative thinking) switch to the positive and appreciate being alive/ nature/my family and be grateful. Ok that’s cool BUT it does not change the state of the world, it is simply ignoring the negative within my own mind–as who I am–and without as in ignoring the suffering of millions who exist in poverty and war.

Another thing I would do is focus on ‘happy’ memories or a ‘happy’ occasion coming up and think, ‘oh, I have it better than most, stop complaining and be grateful, carry on, you can’t change the world, think I’ll pick up a chocolate bar.’ And so justifying a state of being/worldview of negativity by focusing on the little positive I experience, telling myself that makes my life ‘worthwhile‘. Meanwhile, my attitude is really only condoning an acceptance of ignoring reality, as abuse within our world systems continues. I am fortunate I am in a financial situation in which I can ‘look forward’ to events, as in I have enough money for a comfortable (not luxurious) life, so I am not suffering and I can simply ‘shrug off’ bad/uncomfortable thoughts and emotions of war/rape/tortdure/the starvation of millions come up, voila, like magic I can focus on LOA the law of attraction and do some yoga and conjure up images of a vacation I will take, that car I would like or cottage I will buy as I use my energies from the universe to bring me $$$.

I was told by the LOA gurus it is ok to want and attract abundance. Oh cool, and I can simply turn off/not think about ‘those poor people’ , remember these one : war/rape/torture/the starvation of millions. But the only reason I am able to get away with this is BECAUSE I DO NOT EXPERIENCE THEIR PAIN AND SUFFERING. This is no longer acceptable to me as I see the uselessness in just watching/being a spectator while earth and it’s inhabitants are in a downward spiral. What is the point of simply existing in self-interest? What is in fact my responsibility as a part of the whole organism that is the planet earth?

The only stability and serenity I have found is within the process of changing/transforming my state of being/worldview of negativity by stopping participation in the mind of thoughts and the subsequent emotions/feelings they produce by existing within NEITHER THE POSITIVE NOR THE NEGATIVE BUT HERE ALIVE.

To Continue With Solutions and Rewards in the next post.

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